You are interesting

For all sons and daughters:

My sweetheart,

These days your mom and I were looking for something in Google. Before I’ve typed the search term Google suggested few other popular words and phrases. At the top stood “How to keep him interested .”
I was shocked. I reviewed few of the countless articles on how to be sexy, when to bring him a sandwich instead of a beer for ways to make him feel smart and important and I got angry. My love, never has been and never will be your job to “keep him interested.”
Your only task is to know deep in your soul – that strong thing inside you which remains unaffected by rejection, loss or ego – that you’re interesting. If you can remember that every person is unique and interesting, the battle of your life will be largely won. But I’ll leave this letter for another day.
Believe in your own worth, you will be attractive in every sense of the word; you will be able to attract a guy who not only will be able to take an interest, but will be willing to invest his whole life in interesting you.
Sweetheart, what I mean about this guy is he does not need to be kept interested because he will know you are interesting.
I do not care if he puts his elbows on the table during a meal – as long as he watches your nose wrinkles when you smile and he cannot take his eyes off you.
I do not care if he can play golf with me or not – as long as he plays with the children which you will have together, and adores them just as he adores you.
I do not care if he follows his father – it’s enough for me if he follows his own heart which always brings him back to you.
I do not care if he is powerful – as long as he gives you space to exercise the power that is in your heart.
Much less care about who he votes for – as long as he wakes up every morning and votes for you, choosing to respect you and worships you in his heart.
I do not care about his skin colour – as long as he colours your life with brushstrokes of patience, sacrifice, vulnerability and tenderness.
I do not care if he is brought up in one religion or another or none at all as long as he is brought up to appreciate every moment of life and every moment of his life with you is cherished.
Finally, my little one, if you meet a guy like that and it turns out that he and I have nothing in common , we’ll have the one thing which is paramount for both of us: You.
In the end, my baby, the only thing you need to do to “keep him interested ,” is to be yourself .

Yours forever interested in you,
dad

Miss you dad….

Is it worth marrying?

Why do we want to marry when we are perfectly happy with our partner even without it? Is the marriage the only way to show love or we just want some Cinderella version so we could be a prince or a princess for a night?
If you are perfectly happy with your partner, in some cases you even have children together, bought a home so why do you still want to get married?
It’s all great and magical to get married and have this huge ring on your hand, after all this is what celebrities do so naturally you want the same thing. And a super expensive dress and picturesque place for a wedding and…and…and…the list is endless but we don’t even realise that for some this is the beginning of the end. Have you ever though that this maybe is not what your partner wants and pressuring him/her could lead to a breakup?

I have been invited to a wedding next week and meeting the bride groom recently I couldn’t help thinking he’s already had enough. He was happy with the relationship as it was but was pressured to propose and of course marry. If you are in a relationship for 2-3 years that’s what women expect, he says. All the stress around the wedding (preparations have been going for the past 3 months), the venue, the food, the clothes, ring apparently not being big enough has caused such a rift between them so he is almost ready to leave everything…Looking through his eyes I feel his frustration..He is simply sick and tired as life is stressful enough even without the fairy tale wedding, simple ‘I do’ in the registry office won’t do for her or even not having one at all…So is it really worth it? Why would you push your partner in doing something completely unnecessary if things are perfect as they are?
I don’t know his partner well enough but would love to say to her:
Keep your man close and tell him you love him, have your family and create a home for you and your children even without a ring on your hand, with or without the marriage, you already have everything..I hope everything will go ahead next week and they live happily ever after…Will keep you posted.